Honestly, the first thing that always leaps to mind for me is 'give advice' when someone is talking about a problem. It wasn't until I read about it in a book that I realized sometimes what people are looking for is sympathy when they expound about a problem.
Some things really are game-changers when you read about them.
Clearly saying what you want to hear from people seems pretty reasonable, but also a very Miss Vasilver thing to do. <_< I think it ought to be implicit in the way one talks about something, i.e. 'My car broke down, I hear sputtering noises from the hood' implies mechanical advice is requested versus 'My car broke down and I spent half an hour walking in the heat and humidity to get to the mall and a phone' where sympathy might be called for, but people aren't always at their best in communicating.
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Date: 2013-06-19 08:09 pm (UTC)Some things really are game-changers when you read about them.
Clearly saying what you want to hear from people seems pretty reasonable, but also a very Miss Vasilver thing to do. <_< I think it ought to be implicit in the way one talks about something, i.e. 'My car broke down, I hear sputtering noises from the hood' implies mechanical advice is requested versus 'My car broke down and I spent half an hour walking in the heat and humidity to get to the mall and a phone' where sympathy might be called for, but people aren't always at their best in communicating.