in the case of nabokov I think
yes let us see the book, indeed amazon
says they are mailing mine which just
came out today.
my dad left many papers,as I mentioned
on my own journal, which he asked me to
destroy but I understood it to not mean
that he would be unhappy if I kept
typed pages of his writings and I kept
most things of that sort(but what was
unpublished then is surely unpublishable now)

I destroyed all notebooks and his extensive
notes on concerts attended etc and probably
some personal notations which I did not look
into.
similarly without direction one way or the other
I destroyed my mother's diaries which were not
literary at all and were mostly practical notes
appointments etc with some notes of feelings etc

the right of the dead I think is not to be shamed
or subject to the voyeurism of their heirs but beyond
that death is an act of trust, first to God to get
us across the river to the other side, but also to
what comes after...it is best to let go of things...